About

Kirchoff Counseling Services

Hi, I’m Hayley Kirchoff LMHC, NCC

And I help women embrace love again after a painful break up by completely letting go of “the one that got away.”

Helping You Get Over Your Ex

It’s 3 am and you can’t sleep. He’s is on your mind. Again. You’ve gone over it a thousand times, maybe a million, and you keep asking yourself “what if?”

What if I had moved to be closer to him? What if I had a higher paying job? What if I wasn’t so critical? What if I…

You’ve had enough. You’re tired of it. You’re tired of thinking of him, of replaying old conversations, reading old E-Mails, and looking at old pictures. You’re not sure how you’ll ever be able to move on if you can’t stop thinking about him.

And you’ve tried. You’ve talked to your mom, your best friend, you sister, and maybe even your last boyfriend about how hurt you were by the break up, how surprised you were, how devastating it fell. Yet they just don’t seem to get it.

What Most People Don’t Understand About Heartbreak

Is that it’s trauma. “Trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event.” (American Psychological Association) And a break up is a terrible event. Not always, yet more often than not, someone is left feeling broken hearted.

You planned your life with your partner. Maybe you wanted to get married and have children. Or maybe you wanted to travel the world together and see a new country every month. Whatever your dreams and plans were, they’re gone now and you’re left feeling like it was somehow your fault.

You’ve lost too much sleep, too many tears, and too much time thinking about him. You don’t want to think about him anymore, and if you do, you don’t want to feel the overwhelming hurt and heartache. You want to feel happy again, in your current relationship, your job, and with yourself.

It Is Possible To Love Again

You can let go of your ex. You can think about them without feeling pain, hurt, or sadness. You can embrace the possibility of love again, without fear of being hurt.

Sometimes, we hold on to painful thoughts and feelings because they’re familiar. Or we look back on our relationship fondly and imagine an alternative story to the life we’re currently living. Yet acting and thinking this way only keeps up stuck and unhappy. It doesn’t allow us to love again.

Imagine going to bed with a smile on your face and a sense of lightness in your heart. Your thoughts are free to reflect on the day and you’re looking forward to tomorrow. You’re excited for the upcoming plans you have with your current partner. And you feel happy.

A Little Bit About Me

I‘m Hayley, a Counselor in Coral Springs, and I have a passion for helping women embrace love again after a painful break up by completely letting go of “the one that got away.” My own journey through therapy helped me learn that true healing comes from within, and when we feel whole and happy, we positively impact those around us.

I’m a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in the state of Florida (MH 15049) and a Board Certified Counselor (NCC 348194). I am EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Trained, which helps get the route of trauma and shift those negative beliefs and thoughts we hold about ourselves to more positive ones.

Therapy Can Help You Get Over Your Ex

When it comes to break ups, sometimes we just need a little outside perspective. We don’t want to talk about it for the millionth time with our mother, our sister, our cousin, our friend. They’ve heard it all before and they give the same advice. Therapy gives you the space to let it all out and then let it go.

If you think you’re ready to get over your ex, give me a call to see if we’d be a good fit to work together. Reach out to talk about why you want to get over your ex and how we can work together to make that happen. In our conversation we’ll go over what you’re hoping to gain from therapy and how I can help I can be reached at (561) 331.1715.