EMDR Therapy in Coral Springs
Helping You Overcome Your Trauma
Your past is haunting you. Most people wouldn’t know it just by looking at you, yet on the inside, you’re struggling to hold it all together. It takes an incredible amount of energy for you to just focus on the tasks at hand and get your work done. When memories of the past come creeping in, you feel frozen, your cheeks flush, you start to berate yourself, “Why was I SO stupid.”
It takes a long time to let go of that negative self-talk. You find yourself ruminating on past events for so long you’ve missed the entire episode of the show you were watching with yours spouse. You’ve altered your daily routine so much to avoid having to see people and places that bring up those old memories it’s a hassle to get to work, the grocery store, and run errands.
What’s worst of all is that you wouldn’t even say your experience was “traumatizing”. You look around at people who’ve been raped, physically assaulted, and abused and you think, “That’s so much worse than what happened to me.”
“The Trauma of Everyday Life”
Mark Epstein, M.D. writes in his book, The Trauma of Everyday Life “[sic] almost no one is exempt from trauma. While some people have it in a much more pronounced way than others, the unpredictable and unstable nature of things makes life inherently traumatic.”
Feelings such as loneliness, anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, fear, death, and illness are just a few ways trauma shows up for us throughout our lives. The sudden and unexpected death of a grandparent may be traumatic to a small child who suddenly begins to fear his parents may die unexpectedly as well. A woman who is undergoing an extremely painful divorce may find herself traumatized by learning about her partner’s infidelity. A teenager, who for as long has been told by their parents “You’re not smart, you’re stupid, you’ll never amount to anything” experiences a chronic and complex trauma that will impact their view of themselves long after they stop hearing those words.
EMDR helps heal those wounds created by physical, emotional, and psychological trauma. EMDR helps identify those negative core beliefs we’re holding about ourselves (ex. “I’m no good” or “I’m not safe”) and helps up create more adaptive and positive beliefs for ourselves.
With EMDR those memories of messing up on a big presentation at work, your divorce, or even a difficult childhood will no longer hold the same power over how you feel and how you see yourself.
What makes EMDR different from other therapy?
First, what is EMDR Therapy?
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, or EMDR for short, is a powerful therapeutic modality that helps individuals overcome the issues impacting them the most.
Originally developed for use with individuals experiencing Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), the application of using EMDR has grown to help individuals find healing from feelings of anxiety, depression, stress, low self-esteem, childhood trauma, and substance abuse concerns, to name a few.
What makes it different?
A truly unique aspect of EMDR is you do not need to talk about the event or events bothering you in order to experience relief. Sometimes, we feel so overwhelmed having to share the same story over and over and over again that it begins to feel stressful just thinking about how we’re going to phrase it.
With EMDR, as long as you are noticing a positive change in your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs about the situation, you can tell the processing is working.
Can I still work with my current therapist and have an EMDR therapist?
You may already be working with a therapist whom you love and have made tremendous progress yet there just seems to be one thing you keep coming back to, something you can’t get past. EMDR works beautifully in conjunction with other therapies as long as you, your therapist, and your certified EMDR therapist agree and you focus your EMDR therapy sessions on specific events. This approach allows individuals to continuing addressing day to day stresses and add to their healing by getting to the core of an extremely painful issue with EMDR.
What does an EMDR session look like?
Wondering what EMDR looks like in actuality?
You may already be familiar with EMDR, having spoken about it with friends, or family, or maybe even glimpsed it in the media (Showtime’s TV show Billion recently depicted a brief scene with a main character in an EMDR therapy session) yet you’re wondering what ACTUALLY happens in session with an EMDR therapist.
After getting to know you and a little bit about what brings you to therapy, your EMDR therapist will work with you to develop a variety of skills and resources to use throughout your time together. These skills are there to provide support, safety, and security for when you begin to process negative memories and any time you begin to feel emotionally dysregulated. You’ll then determine a specific target you’d like to process, whether a negative memory or current issue, and spend some time exploring what this means about you.
It’s important to note that while EMDR can help achieve healing in a relatively short amount of time, there is not set number of sessions you should expect to have. EMDR is follows guidelines that are then tailored to your specific needs and concerns.
EMDR Lets You Heal from the Past
EMDR helps you link up the logical side of your brain with the emotional side of your brain. After a traumatic event or with a history of abuse and neglect, the two sides can stop talking to one another and a painful memory can be frozen in the emotional side of your brain. You were on such high alert with the event happened, other parts of your brain shut off so that you could survive, physically or emotionally.
Now, whenever you’re reminded of that memory, only the emotional side of the brain gets activated, so you never really learn from what happened. That it was an accident. That it wasn’t your fault. That you’re not responsible
What can EMDR therapy can help me with:
- Sleep easier at night
- Improve your relationships with your family, your friends, and yourself
- Respond, rather than react, to challenging situations or difficult memories
- Decrease your level of agitation and negative emotional reactions to triggering events
You deserve to live life fully embracing the present, not ruminating on the past or worried about the future. EMDR can help you make sense out of what happened, understand why, and then take responsibility for how you will change.
Take the Next Step, Reach Out For Your First Appointment
If you’re ready to learn more about EMDR, how it can help you, and finally let go of the past, reach out to me to schedule your first appointment at 561-331-1715 or by emailing me at [email protected] today.